Picture this: you have just arrived in China and are excited to try out the Chinese you have learned. You pop into a local corner store and ask something simple: “这是多少钱?” (zhè shì duō shao qián; how much is this?). But to your dismay, the clerk merely stares at you blankly, before asking in halting English, “Can I help you?” So what happened? Was your pronunciation off? Did you use the wrong tones? Did you completely waste your time studying Chinese only to fail epically on your very first attempt? In fact, it may be none of these things.
This perplexing phenomenon has been experienced by many of my non-Chinese friends who live and work in China, who have also attained a fairly high mastery of the Chinese language. We have all experienced this type of reaction from Chinese locals in our daily lives, and have all been unsure about what, on certain occasions, made our spoken Chinese completely incomprehensible. After discussing the issue with a number of Chinese friends and colleagues, a possible answer emerged: according to certain Chinese people, many locals simply accept as fact that the Chinese language is more or less “impossible” to learn for non-Chinese, and therefore fail to comprehend when a foreigner actually speak understandable Chinese. In short, they expect foreigners to be unable to speak Chinese.
While I’m sure this is not the case every time a Chinese person cannot understand a foreigner speaking Chinese, it explains many of my own experiences, and also raises another interesting question: how much does the same thing happen to foreign visitors to China? How often do we unconsciously make a decision about a situation before we actually experience it? How often do we judge Chinese people before actually letting their words and actions speak for themselves? How often do we pass judgement before making any effort to understand Chinese culture or history? How often are our negative experiences in China the result of the influence of negative media coverage, or the negative stories of other foreigners?
My suggestion: anyone who truly wants to enjoy a positive experience in China should try to really listen and observe as much as possible, and try to do so in an unbiased manner. If we shut out those voices (e.g., our friends, parents, coworkers, politicians, the media) that are constantly trying to tell us what China is like, and simply try and experience China for what it really is, we may surprise ourselves, and discover a China we never knew existed.
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Working in Mainland China can be tough for Westerners, not simply because of the incredibly different culture and society, but also because almost everyone else speaks a different language.
And while learning Chinese can increase one’s ability to engage with Chinese colleagues and add value within a Chinese organization, most Westerners and those born outside Chinese-speaking countries will always be at a disadvantage compared to native Chinese speakers.
This can lead Westerners in Chinese organizations to feel left out of the loop or looked down on for not being able to communicate effectively. Mainland China has long been an enclosed and isolated country.
When combined with China’s long and illustrious culture, it can be hard for Mainland China natives to accept that non-Chinese are truly capable of understanding them, their culture, or their language.
This can amplify communication difficulties initially caused by language barriers, and make it much harder for Westerners to reach an understanding with their Chinese coworkers and partners.
However, there is an easy solution based on my own experience working with the Chinese, specifically to learn and use Chinese idioms. Chinese idioms are linked to the very cultural history that the Chinese value so highly, and can help Westerners build bridges and communicate more effectively with the Chinese.
In this article, I will introduce the concept of Chinese idioms and set phrases, including their background and significance to the Chinese, and how they can be used when communicating with the Chinese. For those interested in jumping straight in, a list of easy-to-use idioms I often use in business settings is provided at the end of this article.
The History of Literary Knowledge in Mainland China
Chinese idioms (often 4 characters) and set phrases (often 4-10 characters) are short sayings that contain a specific message or moral. They are often based on events or stories of historical significance and are viewed as an important part of the Chinese language and culture.
They possess the added bonus of delivering complex ideas in a quick and concise format. The one downside is that these phrases can not be ad-libbed.
There is only one way to say a particular combination of characters (hence the term “set phrase”), and thus they must be memorized exactly. Knowledge of literary phrases and texts has been highly regarded in Mainland China for hundreds, if not thousands, of years.
A prime example is the ancient imperial examination system, which began coming to prominence in the Tang dynasty (618–906 AD). During the Tang dynasty, the Confucian classics were introduced as a core part of the higher-level examinations, and candidates were expected to memorize sections and even entire texts word for word (or character for character) if they expected to have any chance of success.
As a result, for hundreds of years, Imperial China’s government bureaucracy was dominated by so-called scholar elites, who possessed an outstanding knowledge of Chinese literature and Confucian philosophies (e.g., not science or economics).
And while modern China has now developed beyond this narrow definition of elite status, those in China with academic distinction, including those related to language and culture, continue to be admired for their knowledge and accomplishments.
Idioms and set phrases are very common in modern China, and while they are more often found in books, articles, and reports, they are common in spoken language as well.
I have observed them being used regularly by business leaders, academics, and others who desire to demonstrate their knowledge or refinement. Idioms and set phrases are also a very common sight in the Chinese entertainment industry.
In Chinese TV sitcoms, which often feature tales from ancient China, communist heroes, or modern business professionals, it is common for main characters to make use of idioms, which makes them appear smarter, more refine,d or in control of the situation.
Idioms even have specific game shows devoted to them, in which participants have to guess the correct phrase based on a clue. Needless to say, whoever has spent the most time studying and memorizing the idioms will come out ahead.
While I initially learned some idioms and set phrases over the course of my Chinese studies in college, I only really started using them after moving to China for work.
While working in China, I started to notice that idioms were employed in professional environments, mainly by managers, executives, and experts. I also observed that correctly employing idioms and set phrases in conversations with native Chinese speakers almost always led to a very surprised reaction, even more so than when using a colloquial Chinese phrase or greeting.
The correct use of idioms and set phrases in a conversation has almost always resulted in the Chinese speaker expressing their admiration and respect for a Westerner putting in the time to extensively study the Chinese culture and language.
Since then, I have continued to study idioms and set phrases, and have found them to be a very useful tool in my communications with Chinese managers and executives. For me, and I hope for you as well, these phrases have helped to bridge the cultural and language barriers between China and the West, and have allowed greater degrees of trust and cooperation to flourish between Chinese colleagues.
I have provided a shortlist of idioms and set phrases below (in addition to the five links above), which I have personally found to be very useful and relatively easy to apply in conversations with the Chinese.
The trick to effective idiom study and usage for non-native Chinese speakers is to choose and focus on a set number that you can see yourself using on a regular basis.
After that, it’s a simple matter of practice and repetition. To start with, try combining idioms you like with simple phrases such as “this/that is,” “don’t,” “remember…,” and “we should…, ” etc.
一举两得 (yī jǔ liǎng dé): to achieve two gains in one effort. This means the same thing as the English expression, “to kill two birds with one stone.”
入乡随俗 (rù xiāng suí sú): when entering a village, obey all the local customs and traditions. This is the Chinese version of “when in Rome, do as the Romans do.”
前所未有 (qián suǒ wèi yǒu): unprecedented (e.g. of a situation).
不可思议 (bù kě sī yì): unimaginable or unfathomable.
骑虎难下 (qí hǔ nán xià): when one is riding a tiger it is hard to dismount. The idea behind this idiom is that when one is stuck in a difficult situation, all one can do is continue onwards and do one’s best.
讨价还价 (tǎo jià huán jià): to haggle over a price.
精益求精 (jīng yì qiú jīng): to improve something that is already outstanding.
对牛弹琴 (duì niú tán qín): playing a lute to a cow. This saying describes talking to the wrong audience or to an unappreciative one.
功亏一篑 (gōng kuī yī kuì): failing for lack of a final bucketful. This saying refers to failing due to the lack of a final effort.
实事求是 (shí shì qiú shì): to seek the truth from facts. This saying means to be practical and realistic.
班门弄斧 (bān mén nòng fǔ): to play with one’s axe in front of the house of Lu Ban, the master carpenter. This saying refers to showing off one’s slight skill in front of an expert.
好事多磨 (hǎo shì duō mó): good things do not come without toil, or the road to happiness is paved with hardships.
听天由命 (tīng tiān yóu mìng): to consign oneself to the will of heaven. This saying means to resign oneself to fate or trust to luck.
情不自禁 (qíng bù zì jīn): unable to restrain one’s emotions; cannot help oneself.
半途而废 (bàn tú ér fèi): to give up halfway or leave something unfinished.
Longer Set Phrases:
万事俱备,只欠东风 (wàn shì jù bèi, zhǐ qiàn dōng fēng): everything has been prepared, and all that is needed is an easterly wind. This saying means to lack only one crucial (and final) item.
读万卷书,行万里路 (dú wàn juǎn shū, xíng wàn lǐ lù): to read 10,000 books and walk 10,000 miles. This saying extolls the virtues of both knowledge and experience.
天外有天,人上有人 (tiān wài yǒu tiān, rén shàng yǒu rén): there is a heaven outside of heaven and a person above a person. This saying reminds us that there will always be someone better or more skilled.
不经一事,不长一智 (bù jīng yī shì, bù zhǎng yī zhì): wisdom only comes through experience.
兵马未动,粮草先行 (bīng mǎ wèi dòng, liáng cǎo xiān xíng): before the troops get underway all the supplies must be prepared. This saying extolls the importance of being prepared ahead of time.
千军易得,一将难求 (qiān jūn yì dé, yī jiàng nán qiú): while it is easy to raise an army of 1,000, a competent general is hard to come by. This saying means that it is hard to find a good leader.
单丝不成线,独木不成林 (dān sī bù chéng xiàn, dú mù bù chéng lín): a single thread cannot become a cord, and a single tree does not make a forest. This saying extolls the necessity of cooperation or being part of a greater whole.
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In an earlier post, I offered a general overview of several common elements in Chinese society (and the business environment) which will often influence how the Chinese communicate. These include concepts such as social harmony, giving or losing Face, maintaining relationships, and observing business and social hierarchies. However, knowing about these elements within Chinese culture is only half the battle. Understanding how to effectively communicate with the Chinese in spite of these potential difficulties and obstacles is also very important. In the following article, specific tips and advice are offered to the Western business person through extensive on-the-ground experience garnered by the author in Mainland China.
“Face-to-Face” Is Better in China
Despite the advances in telecommunications which allows calls and video chats from half the world away, the Chinese continue to prefer face-to-face conversations. This is very important in social circles and when conducting business, at which time Chinese relationship networks can hold a significant amount of influence. Holding a meeting or having a conversation face-to-face allows for more familiar conversation. Chinese business people when meeting in person enjoy a more amiable atmosphere which allow for the gift giving and compliments that facilitate the building and maintenance of personal relationships. For a Western business person, avoiding face-to-face meetings in the interest of saving time can result in some negative outcomes At best a Chinese worker or business person will be unable to develop a closer working relationship with a Westerner and as a result remain more at a distance from their needs and concerns. At worst, a Chinese person may feel insulted or annoyed which can damage the potential for future cooperation.
There is also another very real reason why Westerners would be advised to meet with Chinese business people face-to-face as often as they can. Many time when meeting in a Chinese business environment, meetings will take place in Mandarin Chinese or a local dialect, which most Westerners do not understand. When working with a translator, despite not understanding any Chinese, there are many signals that can be picked up through gestures and facial expressions with enough practice. But when holding a meeting through teleconferencing, the ability of the Western business person to spot these signals is lost. Thus, face-to-face meetings, when used correctly, can allow the Western business person to be more effective in managing partner relationships and negotiating deals.
Refusals are Best Given in Private
As mentioned in Part 1 of this series, Chinese place a lot of emphasis on respecting an individual’s Face and avoiding public embarrassment. And no matter whether you are a Western CEO, director, manager, or regular employee, this is a concept that cannot be ignored. To succeed in China it is vital to retain your key managers and employees, as well as to maintain good relations with partners and clients. This is made difficult by the fact that Chinese can be extremely sensitive to how they are perceived and treated by others. Unlike in Western countries a badly timed refusal or reprimand can burn bridges or cause employees to quit their job. Thus No Chinese employee wants to have an idea rejected in front of friends of colleagues by their supervisor as it can be interpreted as a slight (and lead to embarrassment or humiliation). By the same token, when dealing with a Chinese colleague who is your direct superior or higher in the corporate hierarchy, a Westerner should be careful to not to offer a direct refusal or criticism in front of other employees. Chinese leaders feel a they are due a great deal more respect and prestige than other employees, and some are used to never being wrong where their subordinates are concerned. The best strategy for when a refusal must be given is to attempt to offer as much cushioning to the person’s Face as possible. One way of accomplishing this is to talk in a private setting with no one else around your Chinese colleague might be more willing to listen. You can also try to be indirect in your refusal or make sure your refusal doesn’t state your boss as part of the reason (even if he or she is). It is all too easy to burn bridges colleagues, supervisors, clients and partners through losses of faces, even when it is unintentional. And while it can be a chore to dance around a Chinese business person’s Face in order not to insult them, in the long run it is a much safer bet to ensure a successful and worry-free (as much as can be expected) working environment.
Hierarchy & Harmony Can Create Complications
The emphasis on hierarchy and harmony in the Chinese business environment creates more distance between different levels in an organization as well as reducing the ability of Western managers and leaders to easily receive feedback from employees, and effectively communicate throughout all levels of an organization. When a Western business person wants to find out what managers and subordinates think, especially regarding an uncomfortable issue, it’s best not to do it in a formal setting with other employees present. One option is to pull them aside for an individual meeting, or assign that task to their direct supervisor. And while this isn’t a catch-all solution, it reduces the pressure the employee will feel and increase the chances of getting more honest feedback. And while training can indeed allow some Chinese employees to be more at home in a Western style work environment, it’s not a given. Many Chinese employees do, and will continue to prefer to be in an environment that contains traditional Chinese values. In light of this, Western managers can benefit from developing a strong team of managers and support staff, some of which should be familiar with both Chinese and Western methods, and thus able to act as a go-between.
When in Doubt, Follow Up with Specific Questions
It can be very frustrating for Westerners in China to be constantly met with vague answers and inconclusive feedback. In some cases an individual will simply not know the answer and will have been covering up that fact. In others, they will be trying to protect you (and they) from an answer you will likely not want to hear. First and foremost it is important to understand that in most cases this is not “lying” as Westerners know it; this is something that the Chinese have been taught to do (directly and by example) since a young age. Understanding and accepting this will allow you to withhold blame from your employees (a good first step) and focus on making them comfortable enough to give you the information you need. In the event that vague answers are received from employees, colleagues, or service providers, answers can sometimes be obtained by gently asking follow-up questions, or asking related questions to try to uncover the information that you need; getting straight answers is seldom easy but is less difficult if a Chinese person doesn’t feel embarrassed. When receiving vague answers about potential partnerships and meetings it is harder to judge, even to the Chinese, what is really going on. The easiest way to deal with this situation is to check back on a regular basis. If you keep getting the run around for more than a few months then the answer is most likely a no. Getting a direct response out of the Chinese is also something of an art form (which the author cannot claim to have completely mastered), but as with any art form the more practice, the better you will become.
Don’t Expect A Discussion In Formal Meetings
Business in China revolves around protocol and etiquette, especially on formal occasions. And while different organizations might indeed possess different cultures and personalities, larger Chinese organizations by and large focus on formality, and observing the proper etiquette and protocol. When a Chinese company or organization meets with another (e.g. a Western company), the key issues likely on the table are discussing pre-agreed upon topics, building or managing the relationship between the two organizations, or taking direction (e.g. from client to consultant). In this context, Chinese organizations and managers do not like to discuss controversial topics which hold the potential to cause loses of face or create an uncomfortable atmosphere. To have a conversations about details and specifics, wait until the after the meeting to discuss things in a more informal setting. Another option is to hold individual talks with your equal in a Chinese organization (e.g. manager to manager).
Don’t Forget That The Chinese Want Something Too
One thing that can be easy to forget amid the flowery and vague language used by the Chinese, is that there is very often a specific goal in mind during meetings and discussions. Yes, its true that the language used by the Chinese sounds undecided or noncommittal but don’t fool yourself, and certainly don’t let them fool you. The politician that says he needs a few more weeks to decide on a matter may have already decided against you; he is simply choosing not to refuse you directly either to save you face or to act in a manner he or she considers dignified. The Chinese businessman that is waffling over the details of a contract might actually have a specific change in mind, but is simply biding him time or is embarrassed to bring it up. Chinese leaders especially will often already have a firm opinion or course of action in mind; due to the specifics of Chinese organizational hierarchy many if not all of the key decisions come from the CEOs or equivalents with little or no actual discussions from subordinates. So make sure and pay attention; if you can discover what is is a Chinese businessman or politician actually wants, your job will be that much easier.
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Do you know any other ways in which one effectively communicate with the Chinese aside from those mentioned above? Do you have any additional problems or questions that the above points don’t address? Please feel free to post your thoughts to the comments section below.
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