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27 Idioms For More Effective Communication with the Chinese

Working in Mainland China can be tough for Westerners, not simply because of the incredibly different culture and society, but also because almost everyone else speaks a different language.

And while learning Chinese can increase one’s ability to engage with Chinese colleagues and add value within a Chinese organization, most Westerners and those born outside Chinese-speaking countries will always be at a disadvantage compared to native Chinese speakers.

This can lead Westerners in Chinese organizations to feel left out of the loop or looked down on for not being able to communicate effectively. Mainland China has long been an enclosed and isolated country.

When combined with China’s long and illustrious culture, it can be hard for Mainland China natives to accept that non-Chinese are truly capable of understanding them, their culture, or their language.

This can amplify communication difficulties initially caused by language barriers, and make it much harder for Westerners to reach an understanding with their Chinese coworkers and partners.

争先恐后 (zhēng xiān kǒng hòu) is an expression that describes modern Chinese society after Deng Xiaoping’s economic reforms – everyone is “struggling to get ahead” because they are “afraid they will be left behind”.

However, there is an easy solution based on my own experience working with the Chinese, specifically to learn and use Chinese idioms. Chinese idioms are linked to the very cultural history that the Chinese value so highly, and can help Westerners build bridges and communicate more effectively with the Chinese.

In this article, I will introduce the concept of Chinese idioms and set phrases, including their background and significance to the Chinese, and how they can be used when communicating with the Chinese. For those interested in jumping straight in, a list of easy-to-use idioms I often use in business settings is provided at the end of this article.

打草惊蛇 (dǎ cǎo jīng shé) can be literally translated as “beating the grass and startling the snake.” It actually has nothing to do with snakes and instead refers to alerting your enemies to your plans through carelessness.

The History of Literary Knowledge in Mainland China

Chinese idioms (often 4 characters) and set phrases (often 4-10 characters) are short sayings that contain a specific message or moral. They are often based on events or stories of historical significance and are viewed as an important part of the Chinese language and culture.

They possess the added bonus of delivering complex ideas in a quick and concise format. The one downside is that these phrases can not be ad-libbed.

There is only one way to say a particular combination of characters (hence the term “set phrase”), and thus they must be memorized exactly. Knowledge of literary phrases and texts has been highly regarded in Mainland China for hundreds, if not thousands, of years.

A prime example is the ancient imperial examination system, which began coming to prominence in the Tang dynasty (618–906 AD). During the Tang dynasty, the Confucian classics were introduced as a core part of the higher-level examinations, and candidates were expected to memorize sections and even entire texts word for word (or character for character) if they expected to have any chance of success.

As a result, for hundreds of years, Imperial China’s government bureaucracy was dominated by so-called scholar elites, who possessed an outstanding knowledge of Chinese literature and Confucian philosophies (e.g., not science or economics).

And while modern China has now developed beyond this narrow definition of elite status, those in China with academic distinction, including those related to language and culture, continue to be admired for their knowledge and accomplishments.

闭门造车 (bì mén zào chē) is used to refer to someone who “closes their door and builds a cart,” which means to attempt a task that one has no prior knowledge of while disregarding the advice of experts.

Idioms in Modern China

Idioms and set phrases are very common in modern China, and while they are more often found in books, articles, and reports, they are common in spoken language as well.

I have observed them being used regularly by business leaders, academics, and others who desire to demonstrate their knowledge or refinement. Idioms and set phrases are also a very common sight in the Chinese entertainment industry.

In Chinese TV sitcoms, which often feature tales from ancient China, communist heroes, or modern business professionals, it is common for main characters to make use of idioms, which makes them appear smarter, more refine,d or in control of the situation.

Idioms even have specific game shows devoted to them, in which participants have to guess the correct phrase based on a clue. Needless to say, whoever has spent the most time studying and memorizing the idioms will come out ahead.

井底之蛙(jǐng dǐ zhī wā) refers to the story of a “frog at the bottom of a well,” who believed that the well was the whole world,  and that the speck of light above him was the sun. This idiom refers to people who are narrow minded or who discount things outside of their own experiences.

My Experiences Using Chinese Idioms

While I initially learned some idioms and set phrases over the course of my Chinese studies in college, I only really started using them after moving to China for work.

While working in China, I started to notice that idioms were employed in professional environments, mainly by managers, executives, and experts. I also observed that correctly employing idioms and set phrases in conversations with native Chinese speakers almost always led to a very surprised reaction, even more so than when using a colloquial Chinese phrase or greeting.

The correct use of idioms and set phrases in a conversation has almost always resulted in the Chinese speaker expressing their admiration and respect for a Westerner putting in the time to extensively study the Chinese culture and language.

Since then, I have continued to study idioms and set phrases, and have found them to be a very useful tool in my communications with Chinese managers and executives. For me, and I hope for you as well, these phrases have helped to bridge the cultural and language barriers between China and the West, and have allowed greater degrees of trust and cooperation to flourish between Chinese colleagues.

三人成虎(sān rén chéng hǔ), or “three people can turn into a tiger,” warns that a repeated rumor can become fact, or at least believed by the public at large.

Here Are Some Idioms to Get You Started!

I have provided a shortlist of idioms and set phrases below (in addition to the five links above), which I have personally found to be very useful and relatively easy to apply in conversations with the Chinese.

The trick to effective idiom study and usage for non-native Chinese speakers is to choose and focus on a set number that you can see yourself using on a regular basis.

After that, it’s a simple matter of practice and repetition. To start with, try combining idioms you like with simple phrases such as “this/that is,” “don’t,” “remember…,” and “we should…, ” etc.

For those of you new to the Chinese language, I would suggest first checking out this guide to Hanyu Pinyin and basic pronunciation. Good Luck!

Simple Idioms and Set Phrases

 一举两得 (yī jǔ liǎng dé): to achieve two gains in one effort. This means the same thing as the English expression, “to kill two birds with one stone.”

入乡随俗 (rù xiāng suí sú): when entering a village, obey all the local customs and traditions. This is the Chinese version of “when in Rome, do as the Romans do.”

前所未有 (qián suǒ wèi yǒu): unprecedented (e.g. of a situation).

不可思议 (bù kě sī yì): unimaginable or unfathomable.

骑虎难下 (qí hǔ nán xià): when one is riding a tiger it is hard to dismount. The idea behind this idiom is that when one is stuck in a difficult situation, all one can do is continue onwards and do one’s

Chinese idioms are an important part of Chinese language and culture
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讨价还价 (tǎo jià huán jià): to haggle over a price.

精益求精 (jīng yì qiú jīng): to improve something that is already outstanding.

对牛弹琴 (duì niú tán qín): playing a lute to a cow. This saying describes talking to the wrong audience or to an unappreciative one.

功亏一篑 (gōng kuī yī kuì): failing for lack of a final bucketful. This saying refers to failing due to the lack of a final effort.

实事求是 (shí shì qiú shì): to seek the truth from facts. This saying means to be practical and realistic.

班门弄斧 (bān mén nòng fǔ): to play with one’s axe in front of the house of Lu Ban, the master carpenter. This saying refers to showing off one’s slight skill in front of an expert.

好事多磨 (hǎo shì duō mó): good things do not come without toil, or the road to happiness is paved with hardships.

听天由命 (tīng tiān yóu mìng): to consign oneself to the will of heaven. This saying means to resign oneself to fate or trust to luck.

情不自禁 (qíng bù zì jīn): unable to restrain one’s emotions; cannot help oneself.

半途而废 (bàn tú ér fèi): to give up halfway or leave something unfinished.

 Longer Set Phrases:

万事俱备,只欠东风 (wàn shì jù bèi, zhǐ qiàn dōng fēng): everything has been prepared, and all that is needed is an easterly wind. This saying means to lack only one crucial (and final) item.

  • 读万卷书,行万里路 (dú wàn juǎn shū, xíng wàn lǐ lù): to read 10,000 books and walk 10,000 miles. This saying extolls the virtues of both knowledge and experience.
  • 天外有天,人上有人 (tiān wài yǒu tiān, rén shàng yǒu rén): there is a heaven outside  of heaven and a person above a person. This saying reminds us that there will always be someone better or more skilled.
  • 不经一事,不长一智 (bù jīng yī shì, bù zhǎng yī zhì): wisdom only comes through experience.
  • 兵马未动,粮草先行 (bīng mǎ wèi dòng, liáng cǎo xiān xíng): before the troops get underway all the supplies must be prepared. This saying extolls the importance of being prepared ahead of time.
  • 千军易得,一将难求 (qiān jūn yì dé, yī jiàng nán qiú): while it is easy to raise an army of 1,000, a competent general is hard to come by. This saying means that it is hard to find a good leader.
  • 单丝不成线,独木不成林 (dān sī bù chéng xiàn, dú mù bù chéng lín): a single thread cannot become a cord, and a single tree does not make a forest. This saying extolls the necessity of cooperation or being part of a greater whole.

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    Saying “No” in China

    When doing business or living in China, it is inevitable that one will, from time to time, be forced to say no, to deny a request, or to offer criticism.

    However, in Chinese society, which emphasizes respecting people’s Face and maintaining importantrelationships, saying no directly can lead to unintended problems.

    As a rule, the Chinese are much more vague and indirect than Westerners. By understanding the different ways in which the Chinese indirectly refuse others, Western businesspeople in China will have several advantages.

    First, when speaking with Chinese employees, superiors, friends, and family members, recognizing a vague refusal can lead to an earlier comprehension and reduce the potential danger caused by misinformation.

    Second, understanding the Chinese indirect methods of refusal can allow Western businesspeople to apply them to their own conversations and negotiations with the Chinese. By saying no in the Chinese way, the feelings of the Chinese can be spared, allowing for a more effective working relationship.

    Below, several common methods of saying “no” in China are presented for the education of interested Western businesspeople and travelers, so as to be more able to effectively communicate with the Chinese.

    Express Embarrassment

    One of the more common methods of saying no in China is to begin a refusal by expressing one’s own embarrassment at the situation. This is stated exaggeratedly, with the person saying no acting as if they are inconveniencing the person they are saying no to.

    The goal here is to placate the person being spoken to and to give them an extra measure of respect to not cause them to lose face or feel unappreciated. This method might be used to avoid going to lunch with a coworker or declining to help a friend with a favor.

    “Oh my gosh, I’m SO embarrassed! I completely forgot about having lunch with you today.  I’ll definitely make it up to you tomorrow, ok?”

    Be Roundabout and Vague

    Another way to say no in China, without unduly offending a Chinese person, is by being roundabout and vague. In other words, this means not giving a direct reply. The Chinese often use terms such as “I’m not sure,” “maybe,” and “perhaps.”

    In addition, other words that in Western cultures express assent or understanding can in China be used to be noncommittal. These include words such as  “I understand,” “sure,” and “I know.” In practice, there are two ways vague language can be used in this regard.

    First is when one does not want to damage the Face of a Chinese person. Second is when one wants to protect oneself from the negative consequences of overtly supporting or agreeing with another.

    One example could be a manager who does not want to directly reject the idea of a subordinate and thus cause them to lose Face in front of coworkers. Using vague language can allow the manager to put the issue on hold until he or she is better prepared to handle it.

    Make Excuses – You Need to Confer With Your Boss

    A common method in the Chinese business community to say no (or aid in negotiations) is to pass the blame for making a decision to one’s boss or superior.

    With this method of saying no, although a Chinese person might say no more directly than at other times, they, to a degree, are able to remove responsibility from themselves.

    This method serves to protect the relationship between two people (e.g. salesman and a client) even when saying no directly is unavoidable.

    In fact, it is common for small business owners to display a lower-level position (such as senior consultant or senior manager) on their business cards expressly for the purpose of using this tactic and allowing greater flexibility in negotiations.

    Tell a “White Lie”

    It’s important to remember that saving Face for the Chinese has little to do with the truth and everything to do with personal feelings and prestige.

    The Chinese try to protect the Face of friends and coworkers by hiding the truth and replacing it with something less embarrassing or negative. For example, when an outing has been planned with friends or family, not attending because one “ doesn’t want to” would cause hurt feelings or anger.

    It is much more acceptable to the Chinese way of thinking to claim that one has to work overtime to prevent hurting the feelings of a friend. Likewise, when unwilling to work overtime or attend a conference, a Chinese employee might tell their superior that their parents have fallen ill, and thus cannot attend.

    “I’m sorry John, I just found out that my wife’s parents are coming to visit Shanghai this weekend. They expect me to show them around the city and I’m afraid I won’t be able to attend the conference with you. I really wanted to go with you but I’m afraid there’s nothing I can do.”

    Put Things Off

    One Chinese method of saying no, which causes misunderstandings for Western sales and business development professionals, is the Chinese tendency to put things on hold or to claim to be busy.

    For example, when a Chinese company does not want to meet with a salesperson, it is common for the salesperson to be told to “call back in a few months.” In many cases, this simply means that the company is not interested in a meeting. In the above example, it is of course likely that the company doesn’t care about the Face of the salesperson; they would simply rather be indirect.

    However, putting things on hold can also be used to try to preserve the feelings of a friend or coworker. If a good friend asks for a loan of a large amount of money, a Chinese person would likely rather try to put things on hold for a few months rather than embarrass their friend by saying no.

    Offer a Positive before a Negative

    When one has to say something less than positive to a subordinate, this method can be used to mitigate a potentially bad reaction. For example, if one needs to say no to an employee who asks for a promotion, it might be a good idea to first praise their hard work and their contributions to the team/company.

    When it is necessary to criticize a certain area in an employee’s performance that needs to be improved, one can first highlight areas in which they excelled. In this manner, the employee’s Face and they will be less likely to feel humiliated in front of their coworkers.

    Final Thoughts

    Although Chinese people are not always politely indirect when speaking with one another, it is common enough behavior within the Chinese business and social environments to merit study by Westerners.

    And while the actual practice of saying no appropriately does indeed take some practice, there are several key categories to saying no that the Western businessperson in China should try to remember.  These are 1) padding the truth, 2) telling white lies, and 3) being roundabout and vague.

    Taking heed of these three methods will allow Westerners to be more able to communicate effectively with the Chinese as well as to understand them more quickly and with less difficulty.

    Lastly, while it is true that many Westerners may recognize some of the above methods for saying no from their own experience in Western society, there is an important distinction that one should understand.

    While most Westerners may at times be vague and indirect, this is not the norm and usually clashes with Western society’s concepts regarding honesty and the truth. Chinese society is the opposite. To the Chinese, being vague and indirect is a part of everyday life, and it not only colors the way they offer refusals but also how they communicate in general.


    If you’re interested in thoughtful perspectives on China, cross-border work, and how culture, incentives, and organizations shape real outcomes, you’re welcome to subscribe to China Culture Corner and receive future posts by email.

    I also share related ideas and longer-form video commentary on LinkedIn and YouTube, and post updates across the channels linked above.

    If you or your organization is navigating China execution or cross-border alignment challenges, I work with teams on an embedded and remote basis. Reach out directly: Sean@SageSightConsulting.com

    China Expat Survival Tips: Joining a Chinese Company

    group activeChinese companies in Mainland China are expanding and improving their operations to increase profits and compete globally. Part of this includes sourcing top-tier Western talent for a variety of functions including finance, operations, sales, and marketing. However, for the Western business professional contemplating a move to Mainland China, it is essential to first be aware of the many differences present in Chinese companies. The office culture of many companies in Mainland China, even those operated by Western companies, can cause stress and worry for the unprepared Western expatriate as a result of differences in culture, business practices and unspoken social rules. Research  suggests that at least 30% of  expatriates on assignment in foreign countries  may not complete their entire assignments. It is likely that some of these failures in China are a result of stress and other difficulties brought on by cultural differences. To increase an expatriate’s chances of success and reduce the time required for cultural acclimation, it is a good idea to first be aware of the basic elements at play within a Chinese office environment.

    An article published by efinancialcareers lists a number important points to be aware of before joining a company in the Chinese finance industry. In fact, many of these lessons can be applied to Chinese companies in many sectors throughout China. Some of the more widespread issues are listed and expanded on below:

    1. You Need to Understand Guānxì. Guānxì is your relationships with coworkers and the favors owed between you and them. The Chinese make use of gifts, social dinners, and other methods to maintain their relationship networks and navigate the office environment. To get things done in a Chinese company, it is essential to form friendships and alliances with your coworkers and supervisors.
    2. Account for Yearly Bonuses. When accepting a contract at a Chinese company, be aware that your actual salary is based upon 13  months rather than 12. It is  customary in China for all employees to receive a yearly bonus before the Chinese new year equal to one month’s pay.
    3. Don’t Rush Meetings. Meetings can take time in China. On one hand, when meeting with new people the Chinese will want to get to know you first and will not want to get down to business immediately. At internal company meetings, social etiquette can prevent direct communication as no one wants to cause embarrassment. Don’t try to rush things or it is possible to alienate or annoy clients and coworkers.
    4. Learn the Company’s Hierarchy. In a Chinese company there is much more space (or power distance) in a company between the highest and lowest level employees. While in Western companies there can be much more freedom for low and mid level employees to talk and mingle with company executives, this is usually not the case in China. You probably won’t be able create relationships higher than your direct supervisor.
    5. Orders are not Debatable.The leadership model in many Chinese companies is markedly different than many successful Western firms. Chinese leaders are not accustomed to discussing courses of action and getting everyone’s opinion and buy-in. They give orders and expect them to be carried out.
    6. Don’t Cause a Loss of Face. Causing a loss of face can be dangerous in China as it strains relationships. It can also drive away coworkers or prevent a promotion. Also, be careful when criticizing others, or offering up an opinion lest you become a disliked member of the office.
    7. After Work Company Entertainment May Not be Optional. When invited to attend a company dinner or karaoke event after office hours, attendance  is likely expected. These occasions not only offer an opportunity to relax, but also act to reinforce the various relationships within the company. If you don’t attend, it can reflect badly on you and your supervisor may feel you are not demonstrating the proper amount of respect and loyalty for the company.
    8. Expect to Minimize Expenses. No matter what official company policy might be, the Chinese have different ideas than some Westerners on company expenses. For example employees in Chinese companies are expected to be proactive in saving the company money. This might include things such as sharing hotel rooms on business trips, using personal cell phones for company calls,  and providing personal receipts for the company to write off as business expenses. Not complying can cause one to be seen as greedy and not a team player.

    For the full list from efinancialcareers’s website including perspectives from local experts in China, the article,  “Ten things to know before you join a Chinese bank,” can be viewed HERE.

    All in all, Chinese companies are not so different from Western ones in that they have similar goals; they simply have different ways in which they go about achieving those goals. A solid foundational understanding of Chinese business culture and the Chinese office environment can go a long way towards preparing new Western expats for China and preventing costly mistakes. For more information on the fundamentals of Chinese culture, take a look at the China Culture Corner’s section on Culture Basics.

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